About Guilt

A client of mine whose mother died in a nursing home recently was telling me about what helped her out with her feeling of guilt. She lives far away and only came back here about twice a year. She came back during the last couple days of her mother's life.

" It was when I saw how caring the staff were--how they came into the room and told me stories and shared their sorrow about my mother. It made me see that she was in a place where people cared about her, and that she wasn't alone. It made me realize I hadn't abandoned her, and she was better off there than she would have been in her own home."

So care, when it works, works well